Sunday, September 13, 2009

Dressing for Success

I couldn't wait for success... so I went ahead without it. ~Jonathan Winters

Years ago, I moved to Hollywood—land of a thousand dreams. In love with an actor, these were heady times for me as we explored our mutual love of the performing arts. One adventure I remember fondly was my foray into student films. You see, Hollywood is abundant not only with eager stars-to-be but also many an aspiring filmmaker. Those who yearn to be the next Scorsese or Spielberg. A number of these budding directors study either in New York's film schools or in the land where palm trees sway and convertibles rule the road.

How does the next winner of the Oscar for Best Director learn how to create that mega-million blockbuster? By producing small budget mini-films starring just as eager actor-wannabes. *grin*

So there I am newly arrived in Hollywood, scouring the dailies for audition possibilities when lo and behold I spotted a notice for a student film!

Wanted: Business-woman-extraterrestrial.

Perfect! *laughs*

Now while the competition isn't as fierce for student films as blockbusters (go figure) there's still a crowd to contend with. Obviously, I wanted to stand out as The Perfect Candidate. So what did I do? I slipped on the business suit I wore for my Kelly Services marketing jobs, wound my hair into a tight bun and strode purposefully in to the audition. In this case, I quite literally dressed for the part.

And nailed it. *woo-hoo!*

Attitude is a little thing that makes a big difference. ~Winston Churchill

Now this ties in with last week's essay on visualization. Whatever "part" we aspire to, we need to approach our chosen new reality in a similar manner. In this case, dressing for success isn't limited to a wardrobe choice. As most people know, how we carry ourselves is more vital than the clothes we wear. In men's magazines, for example, the question is often posed, "What do you find sexiest in a woman—clothes or attitude?" The answer invariably remains the same. Confidence is the sexiest accessory one can wear!

Every thought is a seed. If you plant crab apples, don't count on harvesting Golden Delicious. ~attributed to Bill Meyer

I'm going to make a sweeping assumption here that everyone reading this essay desires success and happiness in life. We want but we may not yet believe that we can achieve our desires. Beliefs, as previously noted, are the tools our mind utilizes to manifest our reality. In essence, they are the "wardrobe" of our mind.

"The greatest discovery of my generation is that a human being can alter his life by altering his attitudes." ~William James

By choosing to Act As If You Are A Success, you do two things. You send out a message to all you meet, and the universe in general, that You Are Indeed A Success. You also confirm to yourself this most vital message. Think about it. If today you had achieved your dream goal, how might you approach your day? Would you devote more time or invest more enthusiasm? Would You… Believe?

"What a man believes may be ascertained not from his creed, but from assumptions on which he habitually acts." George Bernard Shaw

Let's choose this week to reinforce our visualizations with action and attitude. Here's an exercise. Go to your mirror and pretend you've just met someone new and been asked, "Who are you?"
Look yourself in the eyes and say, "I Am A Success." Do this a few times and let yourself work up a good dose of enthusiasm. Now, Anytime you shake someone's hand, or offer up a hug, repeat this phrase in your mind. You'll really be amazed at how beautifully this translates. It's almost spooky just how much our attitude affects others as well as our self.

"Excellence is not a skill. It is an attitude." ~Ralph Marston

Remember, reality is flexible stuff. If you don't believe me, watch siblings compare notes about their childhood. Often people growing up in the same house (and experiencing identical events) remember things completely differently. Rather than arguing for poor memory skills, consider how this reflects a vital truth: Reality is based on perception and perception is based on beliefs.

Reality is what we take to be true.
What we take to be true is what we believe.
What we believe is based upon our perceptions.
What we perceive depends upon what we look for.
What we look for depends upon what we think.
What we think depends upon what we perceive.
What we perceive determines what we believe.
What we believe determines what we take to be true.
What we take to be true is our reality.Gary Zukav

Here's our affirmation:

This week I will remember that I AM a success. I LOVE Being A Success!

Let's make this September week shine. Summer's winding down and Autumn is peeking 'round the corner. Time to snuggle down with keyboards and legal pads and trek through lands of our imagination. Happy Writing, everyone!

Care to share any of your tips for or experiences of 'Dressing for Success'? Do share!

--Chiron O'Keefe

Also featured at Pop Culture Divas and Between The Lines.


Linda LaRoque said...

Great post, Chiron, and so true about perceptions. We're all looking through a different set of glasses, seeing different things, responding and yes remembering differently.

Chiron said...

Hi Linda!

Thanks so much. Yes, it's truly amazing how our particular set of 'glasses' focuses our view.

Fascinating, Captain!


Miss Mae said...

Did you stare in the film? Where can I see it? I wanna see it! Whoo-hooo, I know a real-live movie star!

Ann Victor said...

I love browsing your blog when I have the time, Chiron. I always come away from it feeling upbeat and inspired!!

This post is so true. I do believe that confident people succeed more easily than others who have a greater talent than them, simply because confident people believe in themselves.

Here's another quote to add to yours:

"Go confidently in the direction of your dreams. Live the life you've imagined."
(Henry David Thoreau)

Chiron said...

Aw, Miss Mae!! *laughs*

You really do a soul good. *grin* I was one of the stars, although the only 'premiere' was in the director's university class. *snort*

It was loads of fun though!!


Chiron said...

Hello Ann!

Oh, what a wonderful quote. I love that. Yes, confidence is key. If we don't believe in ourselves, why should anyone else?

Here's to remembering We Are Successful Writers. Yes!

Thanks so much for stopping by. You inspire me too!!