Monday, November 10, 2008

Dressing for Success

I couldn't wait for success... so I went ahead without it. ~Jonathan Winters

Years ago, I moved to Hollywood—land of a thousand dreams. *smile* In love with an actor, these were heady times for me as we explored our mutual love of the performing arts. One adventure I remember fondly was my foray into student films. You see, Hollywood is abundant not only with eager stars-to-be but also many an aspiring filmmaker. Those who yearn to be the next Scorsese or Spielberg. A number of these budding directors study either in New York's film schools or in the land where palm trees sway and convertibles rule the road.

How does the next winner of the Oscar for Best Director learn how to create that mega-million blockbuster? By producing small budget mini-films starring just as eager actor-wannabes. *grin*

So there I am newly arrived in Hollywood, scouring the dailies for audition possibilities when lo and behold I spotted a notice for a student film!

Wanted: Business-woman-extraterrestrial.

Perfect! *laughs*

Now while the competition isn't as fierce for student films as blockbusters (go figure) there's still a crowd to contend with. Obviously, I wanted to stand out as The Perfect Candidate. So what did I do? I dressed in the business suit I used in my Kelly Services marketing jobs, put my hair in a tight bun and went in dressed as close to the description of the available part as I possibly could. In this case, I quite literally dressed for the part.

And nailed it. *woo-hoo!*

Attitude is a little thing that makes a big difference. ~Winston Churchill

Now this ties in with last week's essay on visualization. Whatever "part" we aspire to, we need to approach our chosen new reality in a similar manner. In this case, dressing for success isn't limited to a wardrobe choice. As most people know, how we carry ourselves is more vital than the clothes we wear. In men's magazines, for example, the question is often posed, "What do you find sexiest in a woman—clothes or attitude?" The answer invariably remains the same. Confidence is the sexiest accessory one can wear!

Every thought is a seed. If you plant crab apples, don't count on harvesting Golden Delicious. ~Bill Meyer

I'm going to make a sweeping assumption here that everyone reading this essay desires success and happiness in life. We want but we may not yet believe that we can achieve our desires. Beliefs, as previously noted, are the tools our mind utilizes to manifest our reality. In essence, they are the "wardrobe" of our mind.

The greatest discovery of my generation is that a human being can alter his life by altering his attitudes. ~William James

By choosing to Act As If You Are A Success, you do two things. You send out a message to all you meet, and the universe in general, that You Are Indeed A Success. You also confirm to yourself this most vital message. Think about it. If today you had achieved your dream goal, how might you approach your day? Would you devote more time or invest more enthusiasm? Would You… Believe?

What a man believes may be ascertained not from his creed, but from assumptions on which he habitually acts. –George Bernard Shaw

Let's choose this week to reinforce our visualizations with action and attitude. Here's an exercise. Go to your mirror and pretend you've just met someone new. Looking yourself in the eyes say, "I Am A Success." Do this a few times and let yourself work up a good dose of enthusiasm. Anytime you shake someone's hand, or offer up a hug, repeat this phrase in your mind. You'll really be amazed at how this translates. It's almost spooky just how much our attitude affects others as well as our self.

Excellence is not a skill. It is an attitude. ~Ralph Marston

Remember, reality is flexible stuff. If you don't believe me, watch siblings compare notes about their childhood. *grin* Often people growing up in the same house, experiencing identical events nevertheless remember things completely differently. Rather than arguing for poor memory skills, consider how this reflects a vital truth: Reality is based on perception and perception is based on beliefs.

Reality is what we take to be true.
What we take to be true is what we believe.
What we believe is based upon our perceptions.
What we perceive depends upon what we look for.
What we look for depends upon what we think.
What we think depends upon what we perceive.
What we perceive determines what we believe.
What we believe determines what we take to be true.
What we take to be true is our reality. –Gary Zukav

Here's our affirmation:

This week I will remember that I AM a success. I LOVE Being A Success!
Let's make this November week shine. Through winter's rain, snow, and blustery winds, let's snuggle down with keyboards and legal pads and trek through lands of our imagination. Happy Writing, everyone! Ready to set goals?


deboradale said...

How do you do this, Chiron? How do you always find the just-right words, the just-right quotes and the just-right... 'wardrobe'?

What you say about looking in the mirror and repeating the phrase makes me think of a lecture from motivational speaker Tony Robbins. For those stuck in a rut, he suggests looking in a mirror and picturing yourself in 5 years. 10 years. 20 years. If you don't like what you see, it's time to change. It's powerful stuff. As is the message in your wonderful post. Thank you as always.


Chiron said...

Aw, Debbie,

Thanks so much for your lovely words!

That's a great idea Tony has. Powerful stuff indeed...

Thanks for stopping by!

Smiles to you,

Kitty Keswick said...

Great Blog. So true. I love the quote from Ralph Marston. "Excellence is not a skill. It is an attitude."
(I also have to grin. My first major was film/television, I wrote,and directed a student film.)
Kitty Keswick

Jennifer Shirk said...

Wonderful! We should all "dress" for success every day. :)

Renee Knowles said...

Hi Chiron! I've been AWOL, but am back :) This is a fabulous post. I am an image coach in my "day" job, and I work on this very thing with my clients all the time.

Thanks for always inspiring us.



Sandy said...


Great blog entry. I agree that you have to think success to get there.


Chiron said...

Hey Kitty!

Ah, comrades in cinema. *grin* Student films are the best! I had such a blast.

I too love that quote from Ralph Marston. So true, so true...

Thanks loads for your comments!

Smiles and hugs,

Chiron said...

Thanks, Jennifer! Yup, time for a new "wardrobe". *grin*

Smiles and hugs,

Chiron said...


Welcome back! I love the title, Image Coach. How perfect is that?

Thanks for being here, always...

Smiles and hugs,

Chiron said...

Sandy, thanks so much! I really appreciate you stopping by...

Smiles and hugs,

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Riot! said...

Well said, I totally agree.

Chiron said...

Thanks, Riot!